Cue the cheery Christmas voice “it’s the most wonderful time of the year”. I can almost hear my friends singing sarcastically with me. I am almost two years into my farm wife venture, and still have a lot to learn. In the spirit of harvest, I thought I would bring you advice from the experts. I’m talking the cream of the crop (no pun intended). They have generations of this in their blood, and I’m a bankers daughter who hadn’t been within 100 yards of a cow before meeting Damon.
I had a perception of farmers and their families embedded in my head for years. The wives normally played out in my mind as grungy, crusty – handed, no – make up wearing, broad shouldered gals, carrying sacks of feed on their backs, and could take you out with one hard glare.
I am SO thankful that is furthest from the truth (except these girls are some kind of strong, so if needed – that sack of feed can get moved). These girls are gorgeous, the best multi – taskers I know, and make a hard life look easy.
There’s nothing like having people to relate to, especially when you run life with a farmer. These girls are my saving grace. They are meal taking, fun loving, strong and independent women, who can keep up with the best of them. These veteran farm wives are some of the bravest women I know, and I am thankful to be inspired by their path woven before me!
Here’s some immeasurably raw farm wife advice:
Sara: farmers daughter for 32 years, wife of a farmer for 9 years.
1) Always be flexible. Farming is not an 8-5 job.
2) I never realized how much I would pray about farming. You pray for it to rain or not to rain, pray that the crop comes up or that it gets hailed out, etc.. Mother nature plays a huge part in farming.
3) Farming is a lifestyle! My kids are so lucky that they understand where bread comes from, from start to finish.
4) No one works harder than a farmer!! And what a role model my husband is to my kids, instilling such a strong work ethic.
5) There are days I would rather build a fence, drive a tractor, work cows and leave my husband with the kids!!
6) You better learn how to cook because there are lots of mouths to feed during planting and harvesting!
7) I have learned my cardinal directions, instead of left and right.
8) Even in the midst of all the chaos and stress, there is nothing better than my kid’s daddy being able to pop in during the day just to say Hi or to take them for a ride on the tractor.
Emily: farmers daughter for 28 years, wife of a farmer for 6 years.
1) Moods change with the weather (which can be a lot here in Texas!) Whether or not you’re getting the right amount of rainfall determines whether it’s safe to ask your hubby about those shoes you’ve been eyeing.
2) You will be a single mom during harvest.
3) Your husband’s work hours are determined by the sunrise and sunset. What is an 8-5 job!?
4) Your kids will always choose Daddy over Mommy if they’re given a choice about who they’d rather spend the day with. I mean, who can compete with “moo cows”?
5) It’s an honest way of life. Farmers grow the food we eat. There is something about it that is endearing, even on the tough days. Investing hundreds of thousands of dollars on equipment, land, and seed to put in your crops and waiting and trusting God to turn it into provision for your family is like no other occupation.
Yeah, tried not to cry during those but wow it’s all true. It is a grueling lifestyle, but the rewards exponentially outweigh the difficulties. Especially when you have the privilege of raising a family in farming. I have three rookie tips:
1) keep your mouth closed during rides on the gators in the pastures.
2) there are bigger bugs in those fields than on the national geographic channel.
3) if you aren’t a little crazy, don’t sign up. you already have to be part way there, or it’ll drive you straight to it!
I didn’t know how blessed I was marrying a farmer and finding friends to share this life with until the baseball – sized grasshopper hit me in the face. I can’t imagine life any other way now!