Early in the morning before breakfast, after an intense sweat session, and on an overly decent day – my abs are flat. My four-ish pack game is strong, and my phone is charged and ready to take a picture to share. We all do it. Not many social media posts show us at our worst angles, on our crazy make up and hair days, or find their way on Instagram unedited. But we shouldn’t be fooled.
I read a post a few weeks ago that showed a well – known family before and after reality TV kissed their wealthy hides. It read “see you’re not ugly, you’re just poor”. I laughed and thought – yes, all my posts would be more glamorous and beautiful with a full-time nanny, cook, and stylist at my every beckoning call. I also saw a post from an elite personal trainer where she showed what she looks like standing and how different her stomach appears sitting. I thought “YES. THANK YOU”! No one is perfect. I hear frustration from clients and those seeking fitness advice as they describe the perfectly fit body they desire.
It usually includes having a completely flat stomach. And keeping it that way.
Personally, I have always been athletic, but my body has changed many times from high school, college, twin and singleton pregnancies, and other big life changes. I am fit and in shape, better than I ever have been before. But some days the four pack is MIA. I am bloated, I eat poorly, or for whatever reason, didn’t get my workout in. I have so many days that are not picture worthy. And if you see my stomach when I sit, or notice it’s not perfectly flat some days – THAT’S NORMAL.
Even the fittest athletes don’t have 365 days a year of flat bellies. So many factors control our body’s appearance. Body type, water weight fluctuations, our bad time of the month, hormone imbalances, sickness, the list goes on! This is not an excuse to slack. Or not take responsibility for our health downfalls (poor excuses, unhealthy food choices, or skipping workouts for no good reason). And I drill and seriously mean it when I say “80% of fitness success is diet, 20% is exercise”.
I’m not saying we can’t get you a flat stomach. Come workout with me and I can work to get you there. But everyone will have days it’s just not the right choice to wear the extra tight dress, or the cute crop top, sorry.
Give your body a little grace. I don’t expect perfection from myself or my clients. I do however expect dedication, hard work, and a realistic perspective of food, exercise, and overall fitness! Fitness is not about perfection. It’s about working your hardest for your mind, body, and soul every day. Had a bad day? It’s okay. Move on and do better the next. You can’t ruin all your hard work with a few bad days. But you can let a few bad days turn into bad weeks, which may lead to bad months and end up destroying your effort all together. Use those media posts for inspiration, but don’t let yourself fall into the trap of comparison – because for every one cute post, there are ten bad pictures we all could post instead. AM I RIGHT?
Check out this article for more fitspiration on this subject: http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/jen-widerstrom-stomach-rolls-instagram